Michael Rushby was simply too embarrassed to tell his family that he had found a lump in his testicles. And by the time he told his older brother about it eight months after first noticing it, it was too late.
In an unfortunate incident, a teenager lost his life because he didn't open up soon enough about a lump he had found in his privates. Michael Rushby was simply too embarrassed to tell his family that he had found a lump in his testicles. And by the time he told his older brother about it eight months after first noticing it, it was too late. Although his parents took him to see a doctor, the 16-year-old passed away just two weeks later. His death was more heartbreaking because it could have been prevented.
Rushby, who was known as Mikey, died of testicular cancer a few years ago, and ever since then his mother Patricia Rushby has been raising awareness about testicular cancer. She had been urging young boys to check themselves and also requesting them to not be embarrassed about informing someone if they do find a lump. "I just want to get the message across to any young lad, don’t be scared to go to a parent, a grandparent, teacher, or friend, before it’s too late like it was for Mikey," said Patricia according to Gazette Live.
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"I wouldn’t like anyone else to go through what Mikey went through and what we have - it’s just tragic. His friends have been excellent with what they have done. They are really supportive and it’s appreciated by all of Mikey’s family," she added. Rushby was a former student of St Mary’s RC Primary School in Grangetown, St Peter’s secondary in South Bank, and the Eston Centre. Shortly after his death, a fundraiser was organized to help pay for a big headstone to honor the teen's life.
Ron Gordon, who was organizing the fundraiser and also working at the center, shared that their school began raising awareness regarding every aspect of health including testicular cancer. "It’s really sad. He was a really nice kid who did well at his GCSEs, got some cracking grades. It’s such a pity that a 16-year-old dies, at such a young age, and we have to use the lesson to educate people that if you have got a lump or a soreness, get it checked out - don’t be frightened," he said.
You can help keep your kids safe & influence them to make good decisions by educating them & having an open line of communication where they are not ashamed or afraid to talk to you. Making sure that they are not ashamed or afraid means that you have to check yourself as a parent— RAVEN ELYSE (@RavenElyseTV) November 6, 2019
Rushby's parents cannot be blamed for his death, but it does make one wonder whether things would have been different if he felt he could go to his parents sooner than he did. Parents often tend to stop talking to their kids about certain bodily things thinking that they are old enough to come to you if they have any problems. But have you ever thought about the message you might be sending them by not talking about it? Maybe that these are some things that are not to be discussed? As uncomfortable as it may seem to talk to your sons and daughter about their privates, it's a conversation that you just have to start.
Kids shouldn't feel like they can only come to you with problems as chilling as a huge lump in their groin. They need to know that you're there even if they want to talk about simple, but important things like body hair, body odor, and the difference between pads and tampons. It's especially important to keep the lines of communication open during their teenage years when they might hesitate to come forward with their issues simply because they are embarrassed. But first, we need to address a bigger problem that often leads to shame in the first place- the stigma that comes with talking openly about one's body. Every parent needs to tell their kids that it is okay to talk about their body parts with them.
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