The woman took to Reddit to share her concerns.
Losing someone you love is painful, especially if it's a person you planned on sharing your life with. A woman went through unimaginable pain when she lost her husband of one and a half years, Daniel. The two had been together for seven years and Daniel had given his partner an engagement ring, wedding ring, and an eternity band over the course of their relationship. Barely six months after his death, the woman's in-laws asked her for the rings claiming that it was now their property.
The grieving widow shared her story on Reddit and asked if she was being an "as*hole" for not wanting to return the rings. As per Cafe Mom, she wrote that Daniel had died after an accident “at the beginning of the year and my heart was broken.” The OP elaborated: It still doesn't feel real, but I’m trying to live life the way he'd want me to every day. I haven’t had much contact with his family since the funeral 6 months ago. I suppose we were all hurting and need to heal. Yesterday, my ex-SIL messaged me on fb. I’m a bit of an oversharer on fb and they knew about my eternity ring as well as the other rings. My SIL wants me to return all the rings to them, as they say that Daniel paid for them and because he has died, they belong to the family.
Her mother-in-law also agreed but the Reddit user didn't feel the same way as the rings “are deeply sentimental” to her. She continued: I've already given them back his childhood stuff he had, along with photos he had before I met him. I'd be ok with giving them my plain wedding band, but the 2 others are beautiful, expensive (combined 19K), and remind me of the best time of my life. I'd give them my husband's wedding ring, but he was buried wearing it. I'm getting squeezed by his family to give them these rings. I don’t know if they just want them to sell or own, or what. The husband's family is even threatening to take legal action if she doesn’t “give them back.” They are also allegedly calling her names for “keeping them out of the family where they belong. Daniel and I didn’t have kids,” she wrote, “so I suppose I’m [no] longer family.”
Other Reddit users were quick to tell the widow that her in-laws were being unreasonable. “Asking for a widow's wedding rings six months after losing her husband is deeply messed up,” one person replied. "I'd cut ALL ties with these people. Let your AH SIL get a lawyer, it will be a waste of her money because those rings are YOURS, they were gifts. These people are disgusting. They aren't family heirlooms, they're just nice things they want to be able to pawn. Block all of them.” Another added: They're not even his, they're hers. A third shared: Umm, what? Yeah, he paid for them ... as gifts for you. And as you were his spouse, his assets go to you anyway unless he had a will that states otherwise. Where TF are these people getting the idea they have any claim over anything of his, much less something as sentimental as wedding and engagement rings.
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