"I thought the divorce statistics would never apply to me. I was beyond heartbroken when they did," the actress said.
While standing at the altar, dreaming of a lifetime of togetherness as you gaze at the person you're about to exchange wedding vows with, you don't imagine that someday you would both sign divorce papers.
After Jennifer Garner said "I do" to spending the rest of her life with the man she loved, she never thought that she would soon have to confront the idea of divorce.
"I thought the divorce statistics would never apply to me. I was beyond heartbroken when they did," Jennifer Garner told Garth Pearce, according to The Sun.
The actress was in her late 20s when she married her first husband, Scott Foley in the year 2000. However, three years into their marriage, they decided to separate in 2003 and by the next year, Garner's first marriage was over, according to Us Weekly.
When she looks back at her marriage, she realizes that she and Foley never had a chance at a happy marriage in the first place. "He's a great guy. We were full-on grown-ups, but looking back I'm aware we did not know what hit us. We didn't have a shot. He's a really good guy, and we just imploded," she told Allure.
The 13 Going on 30 actress now believes that she was not ready for marriage back then and regrets marrying before she turned 30.
"Everyone reaches maturity at different times. I wish I’d known to wait for marriage until I was 30 or over. I did marry in my twenties and I found divorce a crushing experience," she said, according to The Sun. "...I thought the divorce statistics would never apply to me... But I got up and got on with it."
Although she was "beyond heartbroken" from her divorce, she said she didn't stop believing that a happy marriage was in her destiny. "I also kept my belief in marriage," Garner said.
Love and marriage did come into her life once again as she tied the knot with her co-star, Ben Affleck in 2005. "Ben is not only my husband, he has helped me in every way. He is the base of my life. He is an incredibly loving and generous man. I expected he would be a great dad and he is," Garner said while she was married to Affleck.
They became parents to three children, Violet, Seraphina, and Samuel. However, a decade was all that they could spend together as they decided to separate in 2015 and filed for divorce in 2017.
She spoke to Vanity Fair about the love she had for Affleck and said, "I didn’t marry the big fat movie star; I married him. And I would go back and remake that decision. I ran down the beach to him, and I would again. You can’t have these three babies and so much of what we had. He’s the love of my life. What am I going to do about that? He’s the most brilliant person in any room, the most charismatic, the most generous."
But talking about the downside of being with Affleck, she said, "He’s just a complicated guy. I always say, 'When his sun shines on you, you feel it.' But when the sun is shining elsewhere, it’s cold. He can cast quite a shadow."
Certainly, divorce is not what she would have hoped for but still tried to cope for herself and her children. "I would not have chosen this life for myself or for my kids," she told news.com.au. "I would not choose to be single or be in this position. It’s something that we are working through."
With years having passed by since her marriage with Affleck came to an end, the 48-year-old actress seems to have made peace with everything that has happened and is now reportedly in a relationship with the businessman, John Miller.
A source told Us Weekly in 2018 about Garner and Miller's relationship and said, "They are stronger than ever. They are very much in love. … Jen admires John because he is just normal."
Another source told Us Weekly in January 2020, "Jen seems extremely content and blissfully happy. John very much wants to marry” the actress but “he knows she can’t be rushed."
Actor Victor Garber who has also been Garner's co-star, spoke about the couple and said, "What’s wonderful is they’re taking their time and they are just enjoying each other’s company. Her priority is her children, that’s it. She’s focused on that. She’s remarkable."