Lisa notes that grief can be incredibly lonely. While loved ones rush to be at your side at the moment, they eventually move on and expect you to do the same.
The death of her son Benjamin Keough devastated Lisa Marie Presley and now more than two years later, she is opening up about life after losing her precious child. The 54-year-old singer penned an emotional essay about the low points she's been facing since Keough died by suicide in 2020. He was 27.
"Today is "National Grief Awareness Day," and since I have been living in the horrific reality of its unrelenting grips since my son's death two years ago, I thought I would share a few things to be aware of in regard to grief for anyone who is interested. If not to help yourself but maybe to help another who is grieving...," read the essay according to PEOPLE.
Regarding it as an uncomfortable subject, she explains, "Death is part of life whether we like it or not — and so is grieving." She continues, "There is so much to learn and understand on the subject, but here's what I know so far: One is that grief does not stop or go away in any sense, a year, or years after the loss. Grief is something you will have to carry with you for the rest of your life, in spite of what certain people or our culture wants us to believe. You do not 'get over it,' you do not 'move on,' period."
Lisa notes that grief can be incredibly lonely. While loved ones rush to be at your side at the moment, they eventually move on and expect you to do the same. "So, if you know someone who lost a loved one, regardless of how long it's been, please call them to see how they are doing. Go visit them, they will really really appreciate it, more than you know," she advises.
Third, "if the loss was premature, unnatural, or tragic, you will become a pariah in a sense. You can feel stigmatized and perhaps judged in some way as to why the tragic loss took place. This becomes magnetized by a million if you are the parent of a child who passed. No matter how old they were. No matter the circumstances," reads the essay.
However, the singer shares that "Nothing, absolutely NOTHING takes away the pain, but finding support can sometimes help you feel a little bit less alone." But Lisa is determined to keep going at least for the sake of her three daughters.
"It's a real choice to keep going, one that I have to make every single day and one that is constantly challenging to say the least ... But I keep going for my girls. I keep going because my son made it very clear in his final moments that taking care of his little sisters and looking out for them were on the forefront of his concerns and his mind. He absolutely adored them and they him. My and my three daughters' lives as we knew it were completely detonated and destroyed by his death. We live in this every. Single. Day," she wrote.
Lisa ends the essay by urging people to support their loved ones who are grieving. She also reminds people who are in a similar situation as her family to know that they are not alone.
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