Madonna's daughter calls her a "control freak" who "controlled me my whole life"

Madonna's daughter calls her a "control freak" who "controlled me my whole life"

When it came to her children, the 'Papa Don't Preach' singer has allegedly been too authoritative and restrictive.

Apart from her sensational presence in the world of music, Madonna is known for her daring, troublemaker-like attitude. The tenacious and spunky star is known for pushing boundaries and making a career out of doing the unthinkable. Contrary to this image is the one that Madonna displays in the confines of her own home. One would assume that the 63-year-old would go too easy on her kids, who might turn out to be all entitled and bratty, but the reality couldn't be far from it. When it came to her children, the Papa Don't Preach singer has allegedly been too authoritative and restrictive, reports E!Online.


According to her eldest daughter, Lourdes Leon, the seven-time Grammy-winning artist created such an unbearable environment with her strictness that she had to seek freedom from her. "The list of things I wasn’t allowed to do is never-ending," Lourdes told Interview magazine. Little things like watching television were something the 25-year-old was not allowed to do as a young girl. "My mom is such a control freak, and she has controlled me my whole life. I needed to be completely independent from her as soon as I graduated high school," she added. 


That being said, Lourdes, who goes by the stage name Lola, did note that she understands her mother's predicament of wanting her child to realize what it takes to maintain an opulent lifestyle now. Madonna didn't grow up in wealth and maybe that's what she felt it was a necessity to carefully guide her children in the same way so they don't grow up spoiled. "We don’t get any handouts in my family. Obviously, I grew up with extreme privilege. There’s no denying that," explained the dancer and model. "But I think my mom saw all these other kids of famous people, and she was like, 'My kids are not going to be like this.'" 

Parenting is probably one of the toughest jobs in the world because you'll only know whether it worked or not when it's too late. Bringing up kids is especially a challenge for celebrities who often tend to get caught up in instilling the value of money, hard work, and struggle. In doing so, they hold their privileges over their heads and end up giving them the wrong thing to latch onto. As for Madonna's case, her daughter said that the inherited wealth felt like a form of "control." That way, she sought financial independence right after graduating high school to gain a sense of freedom from Madonna's upbringing.


Speaking to Vogue, Lourdes revealed that worked hard to pay for her own college tuition and chose to reside in Brooklyn. "People think I’m this talentless rich kid who’s had everything given to her, but I’m not," she shared. However, Lourdes did acknowledge that her mom's professional advice has been instrumental in navigating a promising modeling career for herself. "She said something to me recently that has really stuck with me," shared the LGBTQ+ rights advocate. 


"I've been so concerned with making a decent living and wanting to live more luxuriously than I was when I first graduated and wasn't earning a lot of money. She was like, 'Remember, this s--t is not real. It's not about the money or your face or how hot you look. It's about what you're bringing into the world and what you're going to leave behind.' That always shakes me awake when I get too caught up in everything," she explained. 


Over the years, Lourdes has understood how impactful Madonna's music and her career has been. It fills her with pride to know that she's the daughter of such an influential woman. "My experience with my mom’s music has changed so much as I’ve gotten older, because I’m increasingly able to recognize how influential and amazing this woman is, and how empowering to other women and ahead of her time she has always been. I didn’t fully comprehend that until I realized the importance of empowerment and what it means to be a woman. She’s probably the hardest worker I’ve ever seen. I didn’t inherit that, unfortunately. I inherited her control issues, but not her work ethic," expressed the young woman. 

Cover image source: Getty | Photo by Michelly Rall (L) Getty | Photo by Theo Wargo (R)

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