She "told me she was very upset and in pain and I didn't care... I told her that it was my brother's night..." Many who read his post said he was an a**hole and said, "That’s so backwards and messed up."
With a big serving of insensitivity and a large portion of douchebag-ery, a young man proved that he prioritized the mood of a party over the pain that his girlfriend was going through. The 20-year-old man said that he and his 19-year-old girlfriend had been in an accident that resulted in her losing her leg. "This caused massive issues in our relationship," he said in a Reddit post that was later deleted.
Following the accident, the girlfriend began using a prosthetic and has to wear it for long periods of time because of her daily routine. "She usually wears it for long durations as she does night shifts until the early hours of the morning and then has [university classes] all day," the boyfriend wrote, as quoted by CafeMom.
The conflict between him and his girlfriend began as they were preparing to go for a family gathering to celebrate the boyfriend's brother's engagement. "She was going to be meeting my aunts and uncles who do have small children," the boyfriend added. After having finished an eight-hour work shift that day, the girlfriend told him that she didn't want to wear the prosthetic because she was tired and her leg was sore. "She asked me after she finished work if she could not wear the leg as it was a little [sore]," the boyfriend said.
But he didn't seem to care about her feelings. "I was honest and asked her to wear it because it might scare the kids and turn off my family," he claimed. Even after his girlfriend suggested wearing pants to cover it, the boyfriend was not ready to budge and was still more concerned about what others might think. "I knew my family would be asking her all night about it—which would be taking away from my brother's night," he said. "We argued back and forth and she ended up just wearing the leg after I convinced her it'll only be for a short period and she can just sit down."
That night, when they went for the gathering, the girlfriend didn't speak to the boyfriend at all. But the boyfriend found this surprising. The girlfriend also got herself an uber and went back home later that night, even though the initial plan was for her to stay over.
Later, she "told me she was very upset and in pain and I didn't care... I told her that it was my brother's night and I didn't mean to come off as being mean just looking out for her and any judgment," the boyfriend wrote. "I don't think it was a massive request to have asked her as she only had to wear it for a couple of hours."
After he asked Reddit users whether he was an a**hole for acting the way he did, he received a flood of comments from people. And they almost unanimously commented with a resounding YTA (You're The A**hole).
"You prefer her to be in pain that your family feel uncomfortable? asked Morrifay. "What kind of self-entitled person are you? Do you have any consideration for her at all? She shouldn't even need to ask you. I hope she moves on to someone who truly accepts how she is."
Highlighting a very valid point, papuvesi wrote, "Children do need to learn about disabilities at some point, and teaching them that people with disabilities are just the same inside and nothing to be scared of will only be an asset to them."
"What an awful lesson to teach the kids, too," commented Captain_Quoll. "It’s basically saying that people who are different should endure physical pain and discomfort so that nobody else has to acknowledge that limb differences are a thing. That’s so backwards and messed up."
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