Blogger Gabrielle Blair claimed that men have "zero interest in stopping abortion" when they are the ones who are almost entirely responsible for accidental pregnancies in the first place.
An Oakland, California, mother immediately went viral after sharing her strong views about abortion on Twitter. Blogger Gabrielle Blair, who is a Mormon and a mother-of-six, argued that "all unwanted pregnancies are caused by the irresponsible ejaculations of men," reports the Independent. In a string of tweets, she claimed that men have "zero interest in stopping abortion" when they are the ones who are almost entirely responsible for such accidental pregnancies in the first place.
Listing the reasons, Blair wrote, "If you want to stop abortion, you need to prevent unwanted pregnancies. And men are 100% responsible for unwanted pregnancies. No for real, they are. Perhaps you are thinking: IT TAKES TWO! And yes, it does take two for _intentional_ pregnancies."
That makes 24 days a year a women might get pregnant. But men can _cause_ pregnancy 365 days a year. In fact, if you’re a man who ejaculates multiple times a day, you could cause multiple pregnancies daily. In theory a man could cause 1000+ unwanted pregnancies in just one year.— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
"And though their sperm gets crappier as they age, men can cause unwanted pregnancies from puberty till death. So just starting with basic biology + the calendar it’s easy to see men are the issue here," she continued. Next, she touched upon the topic of birth control.
But what about birth control? If a woman doesn’t want to risk an unwanted pregnancy, why wouldn’t she just use birth control? If a women can manage to figure out how to get an abortion, surely she can get birth control, right? Great questions.— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
Explaining the adverse side effects such preventive medication can have, she linked a study and wrote, "Modern birth control is possibly the greatest invention of the last century, and I am very grateful for it. It’s also brutal. The side effects for many women are ridiculously harmful. So ridiculous, that when an oral contraception for men was created, it wasn’t approved because of the side effects. And the list of side effects was about 1/3 as long as the known side effects for women's oral contraception." Went on to point out how nobody minds "if women suffer physically or mentally" as long as "it makes things easier for men."
Despite the risks, women are ready to take these pills to avoid complicated and expensive procedures but even then the oral contraceptive is being withheld in many places, she wrote.
In fact there are many people trying to make it more expensive by fighting to make sure insurance companies refuse to cover it. Oral contraceptives for women can’t be acquired easily, or at the last minute. And they don't work instantly.— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
Next, she drew our attention to the contrasting availability of contraceptives i.e. condoms for men.
I’m just saying women's birth control isn’t simple or easy. In contrast, let’s look at birth control for men, meaning condoms. Condoms are readily available at all hours, inexpensive, convenient, and don’t require a prescription. They’re effective, and work on demand, instantly.— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
"Men can keep them stocked up just in case, so they’re always prepared. Amazing! They are so much easier than birth control options for women. As a bonus, in general, women love when men use condoms. They keep us from getting STDs, they don’t lessen our pleasure during sex or prevent us from climaxing. And the best part? Clean up is so much easier — no waddling to the toilet as your jizz drips down our legs. So why in the world are there ever unwanted pregnancies? Why don't men just use condoms every time they have sex? Seems so simple, right?" she asks before adding that men don't like wearing condoms.
Why would men want to have sex without a condom? Good question. Apparently it’s because for the minutes they are penetrating their partner, having no condom on gives the experience more pleasure.— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
What are we talking about here pleasure-wise? If there’s a pleasure scale, with pain beginning at zero and going down into the negatives, a back-scratch falling at 5, and an orgasm without a condom being a 10, where would sex _with_ a condom fall? Like a 7 or 8?— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
Now keep in mind, for the truly condom-averse, men also have a non-condom, always-ready birth control built right in, called the pull out. It’s not perfect, and it's a favorite joke, but it is also 96% effective. https://t.co/WnpSadRtRs— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
Well, again, apparently it’s _slightly_ more pleasurable to climax inside a vagina than, say, on their partner’s stomach. So men are willing to risk the life, health and well-being of women, in order to experience a tiny bit more pleasure for like 5 seconds during orgasm.— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
"It’s mind-boggling and disturbing when you realize that’s the choice men are making. And honestly, I’m not as mad as I should be about this, because we’ve trained men from birth that their pleasure is of utmost importance in the world. (And to dis-associate sex and pregnancy,)" she claimed. The mother of six goes on to note how a woman can get pregnant even if she doesn't climax during sex. Whereas, a woman orgasms by herself without ever getting pregnant.
Women enjoying sex does not equal unwanted pregnancy and abortion. Men enjoying sex and having irresponsible ejaculations is what causes unwanted pregnancies and abortion.— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
If the woman decides to have an abortion, the man may never know he caused an unwanted pregnancy with his irresponsible ejaculation.— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
If the woman does tell him that he caused an unwanted pregnancy and that she’s having the baby, the closest thing to a consequence for him, is that he may need to pay child support. But our current child support system is well-known to be a joke.— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
When the topic of abortion comes up, men might think: Abortion is horrible; women should not have abortions. And never once consider the man who CAUSED the unwanted pregnancy. If you’re not holding men responsible for unwanted pregnancies, then you are wasting your time.— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
Urging people to hold men responsible for their actions, Blair suggests a solution:
But is it worse than forcing 500,000 women a year to puke daily for months, gain 40 pounds, and then rip their bodies apart in childbirth? Is a handful of castrations worse than women dying during forced pregnancy & childbirth?— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
For those of you who consider abortion to be murder, wouldn’t you be on board with having a handful of men castrated, if it prevented 500,000 murders each year?— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
Hey, you can even have the men who will be castrated bank their sperm before it happens — just in case they want to responsibly have kids some day.— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
She also talks about a preventive measure for men, in case castration seemed too harsh.
Vasectomies are very safe, totally reversible, and about as invasive as an doctor's exam for a woman getting a birth control prescription. There is some soreness afterwards for about 24 hours, but that’s pretty much it for side effects.— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
If/when the male becomes a responsible adult, and perhaps finds a mate, if they want to have a baby, the vasectomy can be reversed, and then redone once the childbearing stage is over. And each male can bank their sperm before the vasectomy, just in case.— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
Don’t like my ideas? That’s fine. I’m sure there are better ones. Go ahead and suggest your own ideas. My point is that it’s nonsense to focus on women if you’re trying to get rid of abortions. Abortion is the “cure” for an unwanted pregnancy.— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
"If you want to stop abortions, you need to prevent the “disease" - meaning, unwanted pregnancies. And the only way to do that, is by focusing on men, because: MEN CAUSE 100% OF UNWANTED PREGNANCIES. Or. IRRESPONSIBLE EJACULATIONS BY MEN CAUSE 100% OF UNWANTED PREGNANCIES," she wrote. "If you’re a man, what would the consequence need to be for you to never again ejaculate irresponsibly? Would it be money related? Maybe a loss of rights or freedoms? Physical pain? Ask yourselves: What would it take for you to value the life of your sexual partner more than your own temporary pleasure or convenience?" Ultimately, she urged men to at least keep the condom on during a sexual act to prevent a woman from unwanted pregnancy.
In summary: STOP TRYING TO CONTROL WOMEN'S BODIES AND SEXUALITY. UNWANTED PREGNANCIES ARE CAUSED BY MEN.— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
While some agreed with Blair's points, there were many who didn't. For them having sex always comes with the risk of getting pregnant, contraception or not.
The sperm can be “swimming around” for over 72 hours before essentially dying off— “Woody” Woodrow (@HokuKai_Seastar) May 23, 2021
Wrong, ALL unwanted pregnancies (assault excluded) are caused when two people (male and female) unready and unwilling to accept consequences engage in sex. Regardless of contraceptives there is always a risk of pregnancy.— Trevor Larose (@TrevorL67) February 5, 2021
Cover image source: Twitter | Gabrielle Blair