It was shocking how the school expected the girl to apologize for defending herself after her classmate constantly kept pulling her bra strap.
You'd expect a school to be a safe space for your girls where qualified teachers would educate boys on how to treat women. But unfortunately, not every educational institution meets that expectation. One school in particular simply brushed off unacceptable behavior as trivial and playful things kids do, which oftentimes leads to the normalization of it. However, one mother refused to sit back and watch as her daughter was unfairly punished for punching a male classmate who harassed her.
The incident, posted on Not Always Right, happened after a boy began pulling his classmate's bra strap during class. He didn't pay heed to her repeated requests to stop doing so. So, the student reported the matter to her male teacher hoping that he would make the boy stop the outrageously uncomfortable teasing. To her dismay, the daft teacher simply advised her to "ignore" him every time he did it like it was even possible. When she could no longer bear it, the exasperated girl pushed the boy in a corner and punched him twice. Of course, this created quite a ruckus and her mother was called in for the girl's violent action.
Everyone focused on the physical altercation between the two students but not the boy's harassment that actually led to it. The furious mother, who works as an A&E nurse, revealed how she was not even allowed to complete her shift and instead attend the pressing matter at school. When she arrived at the school head’s office she saw her daughter along with a boy who had "blood around his nose and a red face." Apparently, the boy's parents were also present and they expected an apology not only from her daughter but also from her.
"I got the impression they were more angry with my daughter than the boy," she wrote, adding that they were quickly taken aback when she said she would probably "press charges against him (the boy) for sexually assaulting my daughter and against the school for allowing him to do it." But instead of apologizing for not being able to protect the girl from sexual harassment, the staff members had the audacity to tell the mother that "it was not that serious" and that no one needed to "overreact" for such a trivial issue. But this did not dissuade the mom from pointing out that they were all overlooking the most important point.
When it was the girl's turn to speak, she shared that her classmate "kept pinging my bra. I asked him to stop but he didn’t, so I told Mr. (teacher). He told me to 'ignore it.'" The "boy did it again and undid my bra so I hit him. Then he stopped," she added. That's when the mom turned to the male teacher and said, "You let him do this? Why didn’t you stop him? Come over here and let me touch the front of your trousers. Does that seem inappropriate to you?" Next she asked everyone how they would feel if the boy pulled the bra of another female staff member. "See how fun it is for her. Or on that boy’s mum’s bra. Or mine. You think just because they’re kids it’s fun?"
Despite her clear explanation, the staff and parents kept arguing that the girl was in the wrong for beating up the boy. "No. She defended herself against a sexual attack from another pupil," said the mom responding to the charges. "Look at them; he’s nearly 6 feet and 11 or 12 stone. She’s 5 feet and 6 stones. He’s a foot taller than her and twice as heavy. How many times should she have let him touch her? If the person who was supposed to help and protect her in a classroom couldn’t be bothered what should she have done? He pulled her bra so hard it came undone."
Before leaving the office, she warned the boy that she would press for sexual harassment charges if he continued his disturbing antics. She also told the school that they would regret it if any such incidents were to happen again. The strong mom also filed a complaint with the governors of the school and made sure her daughter was in another class away from her harassing classmate and the good-for-nothing teacher.
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