"My sister was diagnosed with epilepsy when she was about 6 or 7. Since then, my parents have had a major soft spot for her," explained the elder sister.
Parents do their best to make their children feel equally loved, especially if they have more than one. But sometimes, they unconsciously tend to focus more on one when they feel their child is not as self-sufficient as their siblings. Jealously and animosity can easily develop in such situations. A 15-year-old girl has been experiencing just that towards her 12-year-old sister who has been diagnosed with epilepsy.
"My sister was diagnosed with epilepsy when she was about 6 or 7. Since then, my parents have had a major soft-spot for her," wrote the anonymous teenager on Reddit's Am I the A**hole subsection. "It's a very mild form, that usually just causes her to space out and kinda stare off into the distance. She hasn't had any seizures for about 5 years," she added.
Explaining how her sister's condition has impacted her life, the Reddit user shared, "Since I was younger, my parents have been babying my sister and prioritizing her needs. I don't really mind that because helping people who need help isn't an issue to me. I've had my devices taken because 'electronics are bad for her' and had to stay home from plans to make sure she's safe."
"The issue with that though is that with my parents constantly hovering around her, she never has to do anything for herself. So when they have to work, her well-being falls onto me. I have had to miss practice and after-school plans with my friends. I'm very serious about my school. My parents know this and are really strict," she continued.
"There's a study club at my school to help prepare for our exams. I already told my parents I was going, but since my sister was home alone my dad said he wanted me to miss the club and cook something for us to eat. When I asked why doesn't sister make her own food, he told me she isn't used to cooking on the stove yet. That made me mad, but I walked home anyway," said the user recalling one incident.
Another time, her younger sister was having a bad day and wanted to user OP's laptop to watch Netflix. But she refused to part with it as OP needed to study. "She snapped at me telling me that I should get a hobby and friends instead of staying in my room all the time. I returned with the reason why I stay in my room to study because our parents don't trust you by yourself and to use the PS4 is she really wanted to watch something," continued the Redditor.
"She then called dad, who told me to give her my laptop. I said I needed to do homework. They told me to give her my laptop or else I wouldn't have one. I told them I needed to study and hung up. When mom came home later, she tried to take my laptop and yelled at me for making her come home. I lost it and told her that she was the one who made me come home when I could've been using a school laptop to study. I said that they need to let me live instead of making me raise their kid. She left and took my laptop to give to my sister," she added.
"Later, my parents came home and tried to explain to me why they've been so stressed with work, and how they need me to watch my sister so they have one less thing to worry about. Then they went on the same spiel on how since she used to have epilepsy they don't want her stressed because of her condition. I just said, 'I don't care about her stupid condition, she isn't terminally ill and doesn't deserve half the attention that you give her. Leave me alone about it already.' They got mad at me and said I was being selfish by not helping them out and sent me to bed. Then this morning, they didn't speak to me at all," concluded the post.
People in the comment section didn't think the teenager was wrong to speak up about the injustice. "NTA. Based on your story, your parents are treating you two unfairly. It will cause problems in the future: your sister will not learn the skills needed to be independent. They are leaning on you too much," wrote one. "
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